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Parenting Styles: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Your Child. Your complete guide to parenting styles and what is takes to become The Ultimate Parent!

Parenting Styles: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Your Child. 

Your complete guide to parenting styles and what it takes to become The Ultimate Parent!

Becoming an Ultimate Parent is not an effortless task, and there are no "little tricks" to becoming one. The job takes a lot of hard work and dedication. The Ultimate Parent has to be very spontaneous, as no guidebook can tell you how to react in every probable scenario. The Ultimate Parent must have the ability to be a parent to their child and also remember they were a child once too. 

The Ultimate Parent has to work hard and do a lot of thinking. The Ultimate Parent has to be the best parent they can be and make the most of every opportunity.

Questions that need answers. You might be surprised at the questions and the answers to what it takes to become the Ultimate Parent. 

When you consider raising a child, you first have to look at several factors, such as:

1. Will the child be male or female

2. Will the child have two parents or one

3. Will the parents be married or living together

4. What type of lifestyle will the parents lead?

5. Will the parents work for the same employer

And those are just the beginning questions you will have to ask yourself. Once you figure out a child's basic characteristics, you will know how to raise a child and what to expect.

What is the Baumrind Parenting Style important? And why you can trust it. 

The Baumrind Parenting Style is a set of values that assists families in raising their children. These attributes include listening, teaching, and respecting. The style and name were introduced decades ago, and it is still in use today. Initially, three styles were introduced by Dr. Diana Baumrind. Hence where the title "Baumrind Parenting Styles" came from. The styles that she found were based on disciplinary strategies, warmth & nurturing, communication styles, and expectations of maturity & control.

If you reference "Baumrind parenting," you will find it is primarily based on behaviorism. Behaviorism focuses on teaching the child using consequences when the child misbehaves. The style is an effective parenting method and can work if the child doesn't know better. However, as the child becomes more competent and aware, they will reject the behaviorism approach. 

Later research by Eleanor Maccoby and John Martin (Stanford) suggested adding a fourth. The psychologist-recognized styles are listed below in a parenting styles chart. 

Definitions of the 4 Parenting Styles. What does each of the 4 Parenting Styles mean? 

Authoritarian: The parent who rules with an iron fist. An authoritarian parent makes strict rules and expects them to be followed at all times. If they aren't, there will be consequences. This parent also tells their children what to do and expects them to be obedient. This parent goes by the saying, "Children should be seen and not heard." Children's opinions aren't valued. In some people's opinion, these parents are usually seen as overbearing or harsh. A "Helicopter Parent" is what might come to mind when you think of the parenting styles of an authoritarian. 

Authoritative: Authoritative parents are structured and have rules. They will make their children dress in a certain way, use proper language, and behave in a particular manner. Authoritative parents teach their children right from wrong. They want their children to know what is right or wrong and know which behavior is allowed and which is not. Authoritative parents state that they are in charge and final decisions belong to them. Authoritative parents give their children consequences when they break the rules, making them understand how. Authoritative parents give their children why the rule is broken, and they give their children choices to contemplate. Authoritative parents attempt to show their children that they care.

Permissive:  Parents who follow this style of parenting set rules but aren't always serious about following through on consequences. Parents believe the child will learn best with few rules, and with this philosophy, they are rarely strict. Parents with a permissive parenting style are laid back, and this can cause them to overlook unacceptable behavior. There are no consequences for actions. Parents believe the child will learn best with less interference. This parent is very lenient. This type of parent only steps in when there is a serious problem. This parent has a "kids will be kids" attitude. This parent doesn't guide or make suggestions when the child makes a poor choice. This parent also doesn't denounce unacceptable behavior.

Neglectful / Uninvolved:  Neglectful / Uninvolved - These parents do not spend valuable time with their children. They rarely know who the child is with when they aren't in the parent's direct presence. They spend little time with their child. This parent rarely realizes the child is not on the right track. This parent sometimes thinks the child would be better if only they spent more time with the child. They don't know about the child's schoolwork. This parent sometimes thinks the child would be better off if the child were more like the other parent. This parent rarely takes time for things as trivial as playing with the child. This parent rarely knows the child's friends. This parent rarely knows the child's teachers. This parent rarely knows about anything the child is doing. This parent sometimes takes the child to places the child does not want to go. These parents can be overwhelmed with their own lives. Paying bills, attempting to manage a household, and working are a few reasons these parents might be so uninvolved in their children's lives.

Parenting styles are one of the critical elements of being a parent. The research and time put into studying it has helped us understand much more about what needs to be present in a child's life.

A Style of Parenting Chart. Providing visuals to back the Psychology of Parenting. 

Who needs a Quiz on Parenting Styles? Not you now that you have this Ultimate Guide!

Knowing your style of parenting is very important. It is the foundation of how you raise your children. There are many parenting quizzes on the internet, and they too can give you information on what type of parent you are.

Of course, when you go on a parenting quiz, you are asked to take the personality profile test and then answer a series of questions regarding how you parent your children. Everything from how you discipline them to how you talk to your children. 

Those quizzes can work and assist you in getting to your goal. But using this Parenting Guide can get you to your goal quicker. There is no fluff and no need to take a quiz to determine your parenting style. 

You know yourself better than anyone. Reading this post shows you want to be the best parent possible. Some say you want to be The Ultimate Parent! You'll get there with this guide by reading and skipping the quizzes. 

You are reading this guide, so we know you're smart. Here is a surprise that I'm sure that you saw coming.

How you were raised can affect the children that you are raising. 

Maybe your parents were stringent, and now, unconsciously, you have become a permissive parent. You let your kids do what they want to do when they want to do it. You may feel that kids are better left to raise themselves and figure life out as they grow. Your reason for this approach is because you know what it feels like to get a constant "no" to anything you want to do.

While we get a lot of our parenting style from what we have experienced in our lives, we want to take the pleasant experiences we have had growing up and enhance them. As adults, we make jokes and conversations surrounding the fact that we might have had it so hard growing up and that now kids are spoiled. But in reality, it's just one generation advancing in life.

Parenting is very different today than it was even 20 years ago. Parents in the past would typically raise their kids to be self-sufficient, independent, and self-assured. But today, many parents have adopted a "hands-off" approach to their child-rearing, believing children should be taught to fend for themselves as much as possible. While this is admirable, there are downsides.

Research has shown that children need structure and guidance in their lives. Without guidance, children don't know the importance of proper hygiene. Children don't know how to prepare healthy and balanced meals. Children don't know to go to the doctor for ailments or which doctor to go to for said ailment. And they certainly won't develop the social skills to become responsible adults in life. 

Have you ever heard of the term "Helicopter Parent"? The explanation of the phrase and research behind the Parenting Style of a Helicopter Parent. 

The parenting style of a "Helicopter Parent" came from the metaphor of a parent "hovering" over a child and is associated with the Authoritarian Parenting Style model. These parents watch and control all of the child's actions, similar to a "hover copter" overhead. 

Research shows that these children are at a considerably higher possibility of having self-esteem issues. The reason is that the child's opinions aren't valued inside the parent-child relationship. 

Children might also be aggressive or hostile because of their anger towards their parents. These children are also shown to become 'great liars' because they become proficient in hiding things from their parents to avoid punishment. 

These children grow into adults that do not act appropriately inside of society. The reason is that they had few opportunities or input into the rules that were set forth for them as children.

Why The Uninvolved/Neglectful parent should not be seen as the "bad guy" regarding Parenting Styles. The reason why may surprise you!

Life can be stressful, and trying to handle all that life throws at us constantly can get to be overwhelming. Bills come due, work calls for mandatory hours, and an unexpected auto repair pops up. These are just a few examples of instances in a person's life that can cause a parent to not be fully available for a child. 

Again, research shows that children of Uninvolved-Neglectful parents have low self-esteem and struggle with issues relating to self-worth. These children tend to not do well in school and exhibit behavioral issues. Low rankings in the overall happiness of these children are also recorded research topics. 

Sometimes parents don't know where to turn. They may not be aware of available resources or have already tried something that didn't work. Other times, the parents know there are resources, such as family services, but they don't know how to access them. 

Every situation is dynamic, and judging a parent based on what you think a parent's actions should be isn't fair to any parental situation. 

The Ultimate Answer to the Ultimate Question. 

Which Parenting Style is the Best?

An Answer that you can relate to. 

So what is the answer to the Ultimate Question that could come out of this Ultimate Parenting Guide? The answer with research to back it is the Authoritative Parenting style. And there are reasons. To start, Authoritative Parenting, or AP, is based on the belief that a child's feelings of self-worth come from their interactions with their parents. 

Authoritative Parents provide clear and consistent boundaries and expectations while guiding their children to make the right decisions. Children who grow up in AP families have a strong sense of identity and self-confidence. They have learned to trust their parent's discretion, and because of this, they respect their parents' views and values.

The authoritative parenting approach allows the child to make their own decisions and truly experience the freedom of being a child. This style focuses on cooperation and responsibility at a young age, preparing a child to adjust and function as an adult.

You were already on your way to becoming the Ultimate Parent! Activities you already participate in that are already helping you become the Ultimate Parent! 

As a parent, you are a child's first teacher. You are the one they look up to, and when that child grows, it is you who will continue to be their role model. A child's desire to learn, grow, and be their best self comes from you.

When you are a parent and have kids, the things you previously cared about are not necessarily the most important in the world anymore. You are now focused on ensuring that your child has enough food, clean water, and shelter. You also focus on ensuring that they survive physically and grow up to be responsible citizens.

Parents often give their children a worldview, a belief system, and a moral compass. Parents teach their children right from wrong, and children must understand that. Parents aren't perfect, and neither are children, but it is a parent's responsibility to raise their children with compassion and love when they do wrong.

Every child is unique, and parenting is no different. One parent's influence may not be the same as another, but we all have one thing in common: the love we have for our children.

When you become a parent, you become a steward of another person. You handle them as they grow up and become independent. Like a jigsaw puzzle, parenting may be simpler when more pieces are in place, but this does not happen overnight. With time, you will recognize more pieces coming together.

The ultimate parenting style is a blend of authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive styles, with a touch of uninvolved to let kids be kids. This balances the need for structure, love, and independence to create the ultimate parent. And when you are the ultimate parent, you can raise the ultimate children. 

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